There Really Are Dominant Women Looking for Men, Honest!

[RichardEvansLee]

There are plenty of dominant women looking for the right partner. Partner may seem too neutral a word but each is variously looking for a submissive or perhaps a slave. BDSM might be only now and then, a bit every evening or some form of lifestyle D/s. Or just a play partner. But I'm thinking of the women looking for a kinky boyfriend or lover.

Each dominant woman is as individual as any woman. But she has special needs that can make even her search more complicated than the norm.

Don't invent forum names like pantyworm4u. She'd rather hear from Fred. Or a guy who's handle reflects a non-fetish interest or is a clever joke.

Don't PM or IM her saying "want u 2 crush my nuts" and certainly not "want u 2 crush my nuts while I sing the Star Spangled Banner and you wear a maroon miniskirt."

Even if you are looking for a short-term kink playmate that isn't the way to approach someone who is supposed to hold the power.

Much less a woman who for some reason decided that she is a person and would like to meet the same.

Fill out your profile damnit! And try to say more than "I'm a sissy painwhore who likes to do housework." Well, if you are really keen on sweeping floors that might be OK. (Heck you can write to me: I hate housework.) Mention your interests and hobbies (which hopefully exceed watching television).

The essence is: be a person, be as polite as you are in real life (and if need be learn some manners). Treat her like a person.

Or hire a professional. She may not be interested in you but may take lively pleasure in spending your money.

Given that dominant women are uncommon it is mighty surprising that good submissive men can be hard for some - nice, kind, smart - women to find.

Go and sin no more! Or rather sin the right way.

This could go on forever. Share your suggestions, tales of woe or funny stories.

[roo-roo]

Yes, yes, and more yes!  So many guys use a shotgun approach, firing off annoying messages (and random cock pictures) to anyone who's even vaguely female.  But the sniper approach works better.  Stalk the one you're after.  Um, okay, bad choice of words.  Don't stalk.  Research.  Read her profile, read her posts, her blog, find out what you can about her.  If she's someone you'd like to know better, then it's time to move forward.  Don't send her a generic form letter.  Address her by name, mention something she wrote or something in her profile.  Avoid talking about your fantasies right up front.  

[RichardEvansLee]

Where you live is always an issue. People in rural areas have it the worst.

CollarMe offers free profiles and some people do have luck. Alt.com can certainly work but only with a paid membership. Recon is good for guys looking for other guys.

Some kinky people use the regular profiles, personal ads sites like Yahoo Personals.

Richard

[roo-roo]

OkCupid and Fetlife are two other options if you're looking online. 

But an even better option is to get involved in your local bdsm community, even if it's a bit of a drive.