I bring up something I learned in the Far East. I've expounded this theory before. I call it the analogy of the archer.
In Western thought, the purpose of archery is to hit the target. Even "lucky shots" count. Archery can also be viewed as a disciplinary action wherein one disciplines oneself in both body and mind. What is important is not that you hit the target, but how you stand, breathe, and hold the bow. The perfect stance, prefect breath control, perfect holding of the bow, perfect fitting of the string, perfect aim, perfect release with the perfect bow, arrow and string are what matters. Hitting the target is a consequence of all these activities.
You can apply this principle to any of life's endeavors: business, golf or lovemaking (some people would consider two of these to be of equal importance). Why not apply it to serving one's mistress or just being a life partner.
Some cultures take this too far. For the Japanese, for example, there is only one perfect way to perform one's task in a factory. This makes them very ISO compliant but it only assures consistency in quality, it does not assure goodness. Big Mac hamburgers are a prime example. Not only are they the same whether you buy them in Tokyo, Berlin or Kalamazoo; they are also made exactly the same way: the special sauce goes on then the pickle then the lettuce IN THAT ORDER every time.
It pays to mix it up and innovate. Seek other kinds of perfection. Not only is perfection different for each person, there are different perfections for every person. Perfection between two people, is an entirely different thing than the perfections of each person. But that goes into the psychology of the couple, and since I am off to work, I have no time to discuss it now.
