How did you get started?

[Mule]

Somewhere else I asked when you first realized you were kinky.

Now the question is, when did you start doing something about it? More than likely the first steps were little steps and even done in private.

For me, I built up femdom fantasies involving CFNM and bondage as a young schoolchild. When I was 12 years old, I wrote my first femdom story (done in pencil and paper since this was about three decades before word processors).

[Thorney]

The girl next door and I played "tied up by pirates" before I realized that there was anything sexual or kinky about it, perhaps age 8.  By 12 I had bondage or submission in some forms in my masturbatory fantasies.  I played with these a little with my first wife, but didn't get anything serious going until I was in my late 30's and getting to know the present Mrs. Thorney.  We talked about fantasies and while playing "slave girl" didn't really appeal to her, she was willing to try it as we experimented and found out plenty of things that do work for both of us.

[Mule]

The first physical acts came shortly after I married Mrs. Mule. It took me a bit, but I did "out" to her.

She was very quick to catch onto my Keds sneaker fetish. She thought it was fun and still does. As for other things, we sort of stumble into them in the course of other play. She is very aware of what my kinks are, and I know that some of them will never happen, and that's OK by me.