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lavender scorpion
Joined: 23 Mar 2007
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 Posted: Wed May 09, 2007 8:04 am Post subject: Seeking answers to my SPH questions |
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Gentlemen, (and ladies who love them)..... I have questions!
Educate me, please.
So would you say that your SPH fetish is singular, or one of several in a broader BDSM context?
What came first the BDSM interest or the SPH fetish? If SPH came first how has the BDSM component enhanced your enjoyment of this fetish? If on the other hand BDSM interest came first, how did your SPH fetish grow out of that?
Do the ladies in your life who presumably share your interest, love your small penises, and enjoy administering some humiliation also enjoy hearing your stories of past humiliations? Specifically, stories about those humiliations that occured before you embraced this and 'made lemonade' so to speak?
Why and how are some women turned on by this? Is it a fetish of theirs? Do they seek this out, much like a man who loves big breasts (for example) would? Or is this more often a case of the woman who has fallen in love with a man with a small penis 'making lemonade' as well? |
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SMALLNJ
Joined: 03 Apr 2007
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| Posted: Thu May 10, 2007 7:22 am Post subject: |
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| i am not really into any other aspect of sph than sph itself. i dont know why i am aroused by this and i am always trying to understand the root of it but i can never find it. i should just try to enjoy what gives me pleasure and leave it at that. |
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BadManneredPest
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| Posted: Thu May 10, 2007 12:54 pm Post subject: Re: Seeking answers to my SPH questions |
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| lavender scorpion wrote: | Gentlemen, (and ladies who love them)..... I have questions!
Educate me, please.
So would you say that your SPH fetish is singular, or one of several in a broader BDSM context?...What came first the BDSM interest or the SPH fetish? |
Any early experience that's stuck with me: when I was about seven I played Truth or Dare with two kind of bossy girls. One of the girls demanded I pull down my pants. My dick was hard as a rock and made a tent in my tighty whities. The two girls found this hysterically funny. I had no idea my dick was small, and the humiliation had nothing to do with size--just with having an erection. I loved the feeling I got from having them see it. |
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BadManneredPest
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| Posted: Thu May 10, 2007 1:59 pm Post subject: Re: Seeking answers to my SPH questions |
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| lavender scorpion wrote: | Gentlemen, (and ladies who love them)..... I have questions!
Educate me, please.
So would you say that your SPH fetish is singular, or one of several in a broader BDSM context? |
When I was a freshman in high school I found a bunch of old porn magazines in a garbage can. There was one with a story about a guy who was a mailman in a cold place like Wisconsin or something who got caught in a blizzard while delivering mail. A woman on his route kindly invited him in to get warmed up. She offered him a drink saying that would really warm him up, then another and another. Pretty soon she convinced him to have a little rest while she tied him up to warm him up a little further. Here the author of the story wrote, "she unzipped my pants and groped around until she found my deeply swaddled member." After playing with it for a while, she left him for a moment and came back with a glass jar with a slim neck. He nearly passed out when he saw that it was full of bees. She stuck his cock into the jar, holding it tight to his abdomen, while he watched in horror as the bees buzzed around his cock, tickling as the alighted on it, then, inevitably, stinging it. What's strange is I can't remember how the story ended. I'm sure his dick was engorged and she released him and it ended in one hell of an orgasm.
PLEASE DO NOT TRY THIS--I'm sure it's very dangerous. You could go into anaphylactic shock, suffocate and die if you tried it. On top of that, it's inhumane to use other creatures to satisfy your sexual desires. Bees die when they sting; wasps don't, but they're a lot more venomous, and it's still unfair to them.
I'm only bringing the story up to answer what I consider a really interesting question about small penis humiliation--one I had to think about pretty hard. This story turned me on intensely. There's something about the contrast between the comfort and relief the guy would have felt at first when the woman invited him in out of the cold and the vicious piece of nature he was treated to in the end. Even though I would NEVER let a woman do this to me, I think about the story pretty often. I definitely encountered this story long before I ever experienced the desire for small penis humiliation, but somehow the two are closely connected in my brain. What's funny is I don't really get into a lot of the femdom stuff I see on the Internet. Maybe the story is such a turn on because the woman didn't really inflict the paint herself. By putting the guy's cock in a jar full of bees, she just let them do their thing. SPH is kind of similar in that it has to do with the cruelty of nature. Some guys get big ones, some guys get little ones, a lot of guys get medium ones. In any case, I think maybe my fascination with this story led me to seek some other way in which I could experience a similar relinquishment of control and pit myself against the stark, cruel forces of nature or reality--specifically in a sexual way. |
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BadManneredPest
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| Posted: Sun May 13, 2007 6:54 pm Post subject: Re: Seeking answers to my SPH questions |
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[quote="lavender scorpion"]Gentlemen, (and ladies who love them)..... [b]I have questions!
Educate me, please.
So would you say that your SPH fetish is singular, or one of several in a broader BDSM context?[quote][/b]
How about making a fun poll or survey on this board with questions about the psychology of small penis humiliation? Anything I've seen that came close to it concentrated on penis size--but not specifically the fetish. Since a fair number of bigger guys seem to be into it, there must be more to it than actual size. What do you think? |
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lavender scorpion
Joined: 23 Mar 2007
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| Posted: Mon May 14, 2007 3:44 pm Post subject: Re: Seeking answers to my SPH questions |
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| TallPaul wrote: |
How about making a fun poll or survey on this board with questions about the psychology of small penis humiliation? |
Sounds good to me, but I'm the wrong person to construct the poll since nearly all of my knowledge on this subject essentially comes from this forum...
But I'd love to see one... Let's bug Richard about it... 
As an aside... It seems to me people really like to read about this, but not "talk" about it, as evidenced by the number of reads vs. replies throught this entire category... hmmm....what's that about???? |
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roo-roo
Joined: 04 Mar 2007
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Location: SW Pennsylvania
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| Posted: Mon May 14, 2007 3:53 pm Post subject: |
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| lavender scorpion wrote: | | As an aside... It seems to me people really like to read about this, but not "talk" about it, as evidenced by the number of reads vs. replies throught this entire category... hmmm....what's that about???? |
I try to read every new response, even if it's something I'm not into. I enjoy gaining insight into others' fetishes. SPH has always been something I don't fully understand, so I want to learn about it.
And TallPaul, you'd be the person to go to about that poll; you seem to already have some ideas in mind. I'd have no clue about what questions to ask. |
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BadManneredPest
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| Posted: Mon May 14, 2007 4:55 pm Post subject: It won't be as fun if I write it myself. |
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| roo-roo wrote: | | lavender scorpion wrote: | | As an aside... It seems to me people really like to read about this, but not "talk" about it, as evidenced by the number of reads vs. replies throught this entire category... hmmm....what's that about???? |
I try to read every new response, even if it's something I'm not into. I enjoy gaining insight into others' fetishes. SPH has always been something I don't fully understand, so I want to learn about it.
And TallPaul, you'd be the person to go to about that poll; you seem to already have some ideas in mind. I'd have no clue about what questions to ask. |
I appreciate your comments, Lavender and Roo-Roo. I'm sure I could come up with a poll, but if I write it myself, I won't have any fun taking it. Don't laugh, but I once found a link to a site where you could make a complaint or complement about someone else's body part (with various options) and then have it emailed to them without your email address showing up on it. I wished I'd get a complaint about my penis size so much that I sent one to myself. When I got it, it said my little member was significantly shorter than average. It was fun for the day, but within about twenty-four hours I started getting MASS spam from penis enlargement companies. That was just a pain in the ass.
A huge part of the fetish is the rush you get out of being observed, evaluated, assessed, rated--whatever--by females in comparison with other males. It doesn't matter if a woman doesn't really understand the fetish. Her curiosity about it and probing of the male psyche--or at least the brain of the guy that gets off on it--is very erotic. I remember when I first discovered the two questionnaires I mentioned earlier: "The Truth About Penis Size: A Womens Perspective" and "A time for size on mens drivers licence." (The URL for the results is http://www.misterpoll.com/results.mpl?id=2513511066.) What made it so exciting was that they were written by women for women (with just a few questions for men at the end). That's HOT! The one thing I though was unrealistic about the driver's license one is that most men, if asked their size, would happily drop their pants for a woman as long as it's not in a situation where there's a strong risk of being arrested for public nudity or lewd behavior. We don't care if other people are looking--male or female. Having your meat appraised by a woman's beautiful eyes is too damned hot to worry about what other people think, whether you're huge, big, medium, small or tiny. (Does any guy disagree with me?) In other words, the woman who wrote it doesn't understand really understand how a man's mind works. Sure, some guys lie about their size--but if you don't believe me about getting guys to display what they have, TRY IT. Try it at a party with a bunch of guys all at once. PLEASE--make it a tradition! For extra fun, play like it's Sesame Street or something and ask each guy, "Paul, who is larger--you or Bill?" Then the guy has to say, "I am larger than Bill" or "Bill is larger than me." Insist on correct answers (or dole out a little punishment), and make each guy answer in relation to each other guy. If you do this, guys will flock to your parties. (Is there any guy who wouldn't enjoy this?) It shouldn't be a size contest, although you could give a prize to the guy in some humorous category (the hairiest or most colorful penis or the biggest flacid/erect differential or something). Somewhere I saw a post about a guy who was at a party where all the guys' girlfriends said they hadn't looked at that many dicks. They asked the guys to drop their pants. The girlfriends didn't rate them--they took notes on their measurements, shapes, colors, etc--then shared them around. I thought that was really cool. I've sometimes seen posts by women who say stuff like "guys' junk is really ugly." I think they really mean it, and that's sad. I find women's genitalia so beautiful. And I like the look of my own too. Women should know about men's bodies.
Anyway, Lav and Roo, are you sure you don't want to create a survey? I'm sure lots of guys would contribute ideas, but it would be a lot more successful if it was based on female curiosity. |
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roo-roo
Joined: 04 Mar 2007
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| Posted: Mon May 14, 2007 5:59 pm Post subject: |
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| TallPaul wrote: | | Anyway, Lav and Roo, are you sure you don't want to create a survey? I'm sure lots of guys would contribute ideas, but it would be a lot more successful if it was based on female curiosity. |
Ummmm.........
*checks pants*
hmmmmmm........female curiosity? My penis tends to disagree with that part. Well, it would disagree if it had a mouth. So it's just laying there now, objecting quietly.........that whole "nonviolent resistance" thing.
| Quote: | | (Is there any guy who wouldn't enjoy this?) |
I wouldn't. Sure, I do enjoy attention or being checked out. I actually get a bit of a thrill from it when I play at parties. But I'm average size, and if I were tiny, I'd probably be ashamed and embarrassed, and not in an erotic way. If it were turned into a competition with other guys, I just couldn't go for that. |
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BadManneredPest
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| Posted: Tue May 15, 2007 6:01 pm Post subject: Woops--sorry, Roo. |
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[b][quote="roo-roo"]
...*checks pants*
hmmmmmm........female curiosity? My penis tends to disagree with that part. Well, it would disagree if it had a mouth. So it's just laying there now, objecting quietly.........that whole "nonviolent resistance" thing. [b]
Woops--sorry, Roo. Guess I should have read your posts a little more carefully. Your name is just so, er, feminine sounding. |
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BadManneredPest
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| Posted: Tue May 15, 2007 7:19 pm Post subject: Verbalizing Penis Comparison |
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| roo-roo wrote: | | TallPaul wrote: | | (Is there any guy who wouldn't enjoy this?) |
I wouldn't. Sure, I do enjoy attention or being checked out. I actually get a bit of a thrill from it when I play at parties. But I'm average size, and if I were tiny, I'd probably be ashamed and embarrassed, and not in an erotic way. If it were turned into a competition with other guys, I just couldn't go for that. |
Is the reason you wouldn't enjoy it, if it turned into a competition, that you're average and therefore wouldn't "win," or is it that you'd feel bad for the tiny guys, who you think would be ashamed and embarrassed? I know roughly two thirds of the guys would be thicker than me, but the thought of having to acknowledge that by speaking it out loud to a group of people is very appealing, especially if it had to be done in a formulaic way. You could be right about the really little guys, but I wouldn't automatically assume they wouldn't like it. Any really small guy care to comment?
I've always been fascinated by how we all check each other out in the locker room, showers, etc., but in a very furtive way. Yes, sometimes if I guy's really humongous, the other guys will joke about it openly, but otherwise, it the subject tends to be sort of taboo. We all have a need to know where we stand size-wise in a group, but we don't talk about it. And women check out our packages all the time. Our penis size may not be the most important thing to them, and many say it's not much of an issue. But there seems to be something like an instinct to check it out, to the extent possible. (Or could it be a learned behavior?) It's fun to get naked in a mixed group, but the kind of activity I'm talking about would make explicit what's implicit. When I look at another guy in the locker room, what goes through my brain is "Am I bigger, or is he?" And then comes the answer: "I'm bigger" or "He's bigger." I think it would be a fun game to verbalize this. To have a group of women leading it would be a turn-on because they're not all hung up (no pun intended) about it, the way we are. Yes, some of them want really big cocks, but probably relatively few of them care if guy A is 1/4 inch longer than guy B. I'm really into CFNM (Clothed Female Nude Male) scenarios in general. I wonder how many guys into SPH have no interest in CFNM. |
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BadManneredPest
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| Posted: Tue May 15, 2007 7:25 pm Post subject: Can I create a poll here? |
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| roo-roo wrote: |
And TallPaul, you'd be the person to go to about that poll; you seem to already have some ideas in mind. I'd have no clue about what questions to ask. |
Is there a way I can create a full poll on this board? If I can, do you know how I do it? Or do people here think it would be better to use MisterPoll? As I wrote before, I'd prefer if a woman, or a group of women, created it. But I might just make one with a small number of questions. I've never seen one before, which seems very strange. |
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roo-roo
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| Posted: Wed May 16, 2007 9:36 am Post subject: Re: Woops--sorry, Roo. |
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| TallPaul wrote: | | Woops--sorry, Roo. Guess I should have read your posts a little more carefully. Your name is just so, er, feminine sounding. |
 No problem.
| TallPaul wrote: | | Is the reason you wouldn't enjoy it, if it turned into a competition, that you're average and therefore wouldn't "win," or is it that you'd feel bad for the tiny guys, who you think would be ashamed and embarrassed? |
I wouldn't care about coming in first. But I suppose I'd feel bad for the really small guys if they weren't into SPH; it'd just be a horrible experience for them. While I am average, I may have developed a slight exhibitionist streak from playing at parties; I enjoy when women check me out. I think the main thing for me is that I hate the whole "let's compare people to each other" idea...........I mean, we're all different. Even though we're all into bdsm here, we all enjoy different "versions" of it, and it's not fair to compare people to each other. On a more on-topic example, the guy with the 10" cock might last two minutes in bed, while the 4" guy can go for hours. Different things are important to different people, and I've always gone for women who enjoy quality rather than one-dimensional size queens.
| Quote: | | I wonder how many guys into SPH have no interest in CFNM. |
I'm just the opposite- no interest in SPH, but I enjoy CFNM........although in a more scene-specific context.
| TallPaul wrote: | | Is there a way I can create a full poll on this board? If I can, do you know how I do it? Or do people here think it would be better to use MisterPoll? |
I have no clue. The only polls I know of here are single-question polls. |
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lavender scorpion
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| Posted: Fri May 18, 2007 10:23 am Post subject: |
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And as an aside...
In my very limited sampling, and education of SPH thus far, one thing completely surprises me...the "tall" guys with the small penises!
Now how am I going to tell the ladies that the shoe size thing is just a myth?  (ooh something just occured to me... you big tall guys, is there a turn on knowing that women assume you're going to be a certain size given your height, and then are surprised to find that you are not?)
Are you tall guys sure? Are you really, really sure your penis is small? Or does it just look small next to your big, tall body?
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SMALLNJ
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| Posted: Fri May 18, 2007 12:39 pm Post subject: |
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| I am 6'1 so I am taller than average but not real tall and I only have 5". |
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