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RichardEvansLee
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 Posted: Thu Jun 21, 2007 11:30 am Post subject: Why Some Men Want To Be Kept Chaste |
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I’m trying to come up with the various reasons I’ve speculated men me might find enforced chastity regimens exciting. I’m no attached to any of these ideas nor if any are true have any idea what the distribution of the various feelings might be among the population of participants and wannabes.
Conflict about their masculinity.
Buried gender dysphoria.
Guilt in being a lazy spouse.
Recapture the erotic energy felt during the frustrations of adolescence.
Feeling of virility from needing to be controlled.
Desire to feel “owned.”
Masochistic need for suffering.
Submissive desire to please a woman who likes male orgasm denial.
I think I’ve had other speculations but have forgotten them.
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roo-roo
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| Posted: Fri Jun 22, 2007 6:25 am Post subject: |
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| Richard wrote: | Recapture the erotic energy felt during the frustrations of adolescence.
Masochistic need for suffering.
Submissive desire to please a woman who likes male orgasm denial. |
These are at least partially true for me. But the main reason I'm into t&d is because it's fun and incredibly hot. |
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quietlisten
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| Posted: Fri Jun 22, 2007 7:15 am Post subject: |
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An ex-girlfriend and I played with a very mild form of male chastity and I have to say it was a nice addition to our relationship. There were no belts, cages, locks, or GPS-equipped erection sensors involved. She'd just run her hand over my crotch, look me in the eye, and say "no touch." Typically, she'd do this if we would be apart for several days. She had learned that absence makes more than just the heart grow fonder, and her admonition against "unauthorized" touching simply made me think about her 8,452,109 times per day more than I would anyway. Sometimes more. And she adored my state of near desperation when we got back together.
So, I suppose the attraction was a sense of her being involved in my day-to-day intimate life even while apart, a bit of residual domminess thrown in, and an even more pleasurable reunion for both of us.
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weirdo
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| Posted: Fri Jul 20, 2007 12:25 pm Post subject: |
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| I like the idea of this if it's linked to the fantasy that my dick is too small to satisfy her, so she doesn't see any point having sex with me. Also that she enjoys seeing me suffer and beg while she gets her pleasure elsewhere. Only ever experienced this in my head though. |
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After(the)Fall
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| Posted: Fri Jul 20, 2007 3:13 pm Post subject: Re: Why Some Men Want To Be Kept Chaste |
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| RichardEvansLee wrote: |
Masochistic need for suffering.
Submissive desire to please a woman who likes male orgasm denial.
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I think I’ve had other speculations but have forgotten them. |
These to are about it for me. I really have no desire to be kept chaste other than the submissive fulfillment i receive from it, if its something that MK wants at the time.
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RichardEvansLee
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| Posted: Fri Jul 20, 2007 6:32 pm Post subject: Emotional Power of Enforced Chastity Play |
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Desire to feel “owned.”
Masochistic need for suffering. |
The desire to feel owned is the biggest for me.
And a chastity device thwarting an erection is the second.
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LockedArtist
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| Posted: Sat Jul 21, 2007 9:23 am Post subject: |
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Recapture the erotic energy felt during the frustrations of adolescence.
Feeling of virility from needing to be controlled.
Desire to feel “owned.”
Masochistic need for suffering.
Submissive desire to please a woman who likes male orgasm denial.
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These encompass some of it for me/us. I'd add maybe a few things.
Keep excitement for sex after 20 plus years together.
Wearing device is like having a dirty little secret
Great reminder that my wife has the orgasms and I dont.
No erections means less distraction when working at home..so less masturbation and more work.
Exciting knowing that a few friends know about the chastity/denial.
Sometimes I just need it locked up..dont know why, but its a deep need...event though its not always fun. |
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roo-roo
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| Posted: Sat Jul 21, 2007 3:46 pm Post subject: |
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| LockedArtist wrote: | Wearing device is like having a dirty little secret
Great reminder that my wife has the orgasms and I dont. |
Good point. It's like a reminder of her every time you feel it and every time you use the bathroom. I really like that aspect of it. It's almost like having her hand there to physically block any attempt at stimulation.
But my main reason is still mutual enjoyment. When I'm with someone who's into t&d, we both get something out of it, so it works. For me, it's got nothing to do with pretending to be more submissive, doing housework, or anything like that. It's fun. |
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RichardEvansLee
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| Posted: Sat Jul 21, 2007 3:52 pm Post subject: Time Spent Masturbating |
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| LockedArtist wrote: | | No erections means less distraction when working at home..so less masturbation and more work. |
| roo-roo wrote: | | For me, it's got nothing to do with pretending to be more submissive, doing housework, or anything like that. It's fun. |
Even at my hormonal peak I don't think that the amount of time I spent masturbating prevented me from doing other things.
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solipsist
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| Posted: Tue Jul 24, 2007 6:38 am Post subject: |
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| roo-roo wrote: | | ... I'm into t&d is because it's fun and incredibly hot. |
When you have an orgasm, sensations dissipate, you return to a non-aroused state. With t&d it doesn't - or at least it fades slowly down to a less aroused state.
I find there's something incredibly sexy about cuddling after sex where She has come and I haven't. She's sated, sleepy and relaxed; I'm alert, aroused, aching and focussed on her.
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| Posted: Tue Jul 24, 2007 11:42 am Post subject: |
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| It's a wonderful feeling isnt it? We're at the point where I dont even consider having an orgasm when we have sex...Im totally focused on her pleasure and orgasm. Its been years since Ive cum during sex. We've finally got me able to have Tantric orgasm instead of full ejaculatory orgasm. |
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| LockedArtist wrote: | | It's a wonderful feeling isnt it? We're at the point where I dont even consider having an orgasm when we have sex...Im totally focused on her pleasure and orgasm. Its been years since Ive cum during sex. We've finally got me able to have Tantric orgasm instead of full ejaculatory orgasm. |
Your partner may and probably does feel differently, but this would drive me up a tree. I have played around with male chastity in the past and had fun with it. But I like causing, watching, and feeling the results of male orgasms. If Pete wanted to give them up entirely or even for months on end, I'd be unhappy.
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| She's never been big on giving orgasms and we've been together over 20 years. She finds semen rather yukky as well. We got into Tantric stuff after I was recovering from surgery. In what I read..the male learns to focus on the process and sharing the womans orgasm...and removes orgasm as the goal. At the time..I was having difficulty reaching orgasm...and we just slowly adopted the tantric stuff..and here we are today. |
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metman
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| Posted: Mon Nov 17, 2008 4:50 am Post subject: OBEDIENCE |
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My wife/mistress says......"A male in chastity makes him more obedient."
I myself find that the longer I am kept in my CB2000 the more submissive I become. She is the DISCIPLINARIAN in the family and I am the sub/servant. We both love it this way.  |
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